Work-life balance isn’t what you’re actually looking for
As a coach, I am trained to listen to what someone is saying and also what they are not saying. When work-life balance comes up — and it comes up often — what I hear is a quiet current of frustration and overwhelm. Like the demands of life are happening to them rather than being […]
Why your team is uncomfortable with the new you
A coach friend of mine is in the middle of a significant shift — evolving the way he shows up with people and shares his ideas. More authentically himself. More trusting of his own instincts. It’s a meaningful change, and watching him navigate it reminded me of something I think about often. Any time we […]
I didn’t even see it. And I’m a coach.
I want to tell you about something that hit me like a punch to the chest. I’ve been in a training called Alive — a science-based framework for designing a life that actually feels fulfilling. Earlier this month, in the middle of an exercise with peers, I got called out on my own limiting belief. […]
What nonprofit leaders carry that nobody talks about
Recently, I read something that made my heart sink. It was an unpublished article written by a nonprofit CEO. The only safe space she had found to put words to what she was carrying was a document nobody would ever see. She was venting. She was heartbroken. And the words on the page almost had […]
AI can coach. Just not at my level.
AI is all of a buzz right now, and I’ve been formulating some thoughts. Leaders are using it to write emails, automate tasks, and outline reports. Some are even turning to it for problem-solving. And the question I keep hearing underneath all of it is: what does this mean for coaching? I did some research. […]
I used to blackout every time I got on stage
Every so often I use this space to make a direct ask, and today is one of those days. But first, a story. For years, a pattern played out every time I got in front of an audience. I would prepare carefully. I’d work out my entrance, rehearse my opening, think through every transition. And […]
What you focus on grows. So what are you growing?
Last week, in a coaching conversation, a leader spent the first few minutes describing a challenging employee. The behavior she wanted corrected. The frustration she’d been carrying. The conversations she’d tried. She had been focused on this person for months. I realized where her focus was placed and said, “As I hear you talk, this […]
This weekend, everything changes. And I can’t wait.
This Sunday, I’ll hear it again. The squeal of tires leaving pit row. The pop of exhaust cracking out the back of an Indy car at 225 mph. Thirty-five years of that feeling — and it still sends chills up my spine every single time. My arms stand at attention before my brain even catches […]
What if it’s not what you’re saying?
We like to think our words are doing the heavy lifting in communication. But often… they’re not. Recently, a client was walking me through a situation. As she spoke, something stood out immediately—her tone. Not the words. Not the story. The tone. It was obvious to me…and completely invisible to her. And it was working against […]
Need a speaker your team won’t forget?
Last week, I drove to Indianapolis for a conference…one I wasn’t attending—I was speaking at it. Originally, I was scheduled for two afternoon workshops. Then a call came in the week prior: Their plenary speaker had an emergency. Could I step in? I paused for less than half a second. “Absolutely, yes.” Three sessions. One […]